My spending is starting to get completely out of control.
It's my family, and I don't know how to say NO (politely) or mitigate the circumstances.
For my Birthday I was gifted two 3-packs of opera tickets. I wasn't entirely sure what to think of this since I had never been to one before, but I really did enjoy it. The second opera is this weekend and my Mom thought it would be fun if my sister and her BF, and my brother came along to make a family weekend out of it. I agreed, but the expectations have been building and building. This family weekend now entails dinner beforehand, the opera, evening entertainment, hotel rooms, brunch in the morning, a Viking's football game and probably lunch or treats at the game, too!
Everyone in my family is very frugal, so this is completely outside the norm. for us. My mom has been in a new relationship for the past year and by some by-product it's really helped strengthen her relationship with her kids, which has sparked all of these new outings. Prior to the last opera, none of her kids had been to one, and none of us have been to a football game either. I get that coming from a small town, they really want to make the most of a big weekend in the city, but I am just not used to this kind of spending...
I really don't spend very much money on myself or on entertainment. Last month I did splurge on $60 leather boots from a discount store. Though, honestly I had been looking for the perfect, affordable pair for about 3 years now. Shopping for clothes is based on needs and always, always on final clearance. I also return many of the items I buy if I know I won't get enough use out of them, or don't absolutely love them. My motto is make do, or go without, not spend, spend, spend!
So realistically... this is what the spending will look like for this weekend.
Opera: Free (Birthday)
Evening Entertainment: $20
Hotel: Free (I live in the City)
Football Tix: $85
Football Snacks: $20
Misc. parking: $20
Weekend Total = $205
But then... I owed my sister $25 for my Mom's birthday gift. And my brother bailed on the Opera. My ticket was a promotion so it was $25, but my brother's single ticket was $60. I asked a friend to come in his place, knowing she doesn't have a huge income, so I offered to pay $30, for half of her ticket.
So that puts my portion up to $260.
AY YI YI.
Thankfully I live in the city, so the hotel room is not needed. But why on earth is football so expensive!?! It also doesn't help that my mom and her partner have very expensive taste when it comes to dining out. Ugh.
There goes my date night, unexpected, misc cash budget, ummm... food budget... uh...sheesh.
It's still 5 days away, so I'm hoping that I can talk to my mom. This is just too much money...
I think I will propose hosting Dinner at my house, and bailing on the Evening Entertainment since we will be spending so much moolah on the game.
Any other suggestions?